This is SO great! Looking at the language of power as language can give you the space to reduce the burden of internalising what someone else says - particularly when the language is doing a lot of heavy lifting and aims at covert manipulation.
Communication in the workplace, particularly this kind of linguistic manipulation, is so covert. I often find the HR harassment training to cover the explicit acts that have now gone under cover. It's the way people look, how their hide their intention in 'niceties' and the micro aggressions that are increasingly difficult to identify. Thank you for creating this cheatsheet!
Thanks team, another really great post of practical guidance and exemplars for us to follow.
For me, "I'm just being honest" is such an insidious line used by middle managers as a way to assert dominance, as if honesty is somehow objective. Rather than being the subjective tool that we know it can be used as against other employees.
I was told that I was "reacting from my two year old divorce!" This was from one of my superiors/ abuser. The gaslighting was textbook. She even requested validation of her diagnosis of my response to how she was mistreating me.
This is SO great! Looking at the language of power as language can give you the space to reduce the burden of internalising what someone else says - particularly when the language is doing a lot of heavy lifting and aims at covert manipulation.
Communication in the workplace, particularly this kind of linguistic manipulation, is so covert. I often find the HR harassment training to cover the explicit acts that have now gone under cover. It's the way people look, how their hide their intention in 'niceties' and the micro aggressions that are increasingly difficult to identify. Thank you for creating this cheatsheet!
Very well done ✅ , thank you 4 sharing these valuable Spiritual Self Defense Mantras
Thanks team, another really great post of practical guidance and exemplars for us to follow.
For me, "I'm just being honest" is such an insidious line used by middle managers as a way to assert dominance, as if honesty is somehow objective. Rather than being the subjective tool that we know it can be used as against other employees.
I was told that I was "reacting from my two year old divorce!" This was from one of my superiors/ abuser. The gaslighting was textbook. She even requested validation of her diagnosis of my response to how she was mistreating me.
Oof...a lot of these are things my mom says. Regardless of the context, you've provided such great tips and so much-needed validation.